“What The Heck Is A Life Coach?”

July 26, 2014
Episode 7

The USA Today Collegiate article is here
Personal and business coaching is experiencing the largest growth rate across all industries.  
The ICF (International Coach Federation) code of ethics is here
Strengthsfinder.com  (I am not yet certified as a Strengthsfinder test administrator, but can give general direction if you read the book...)
Take the Meyers-Briggs assessment here
Keep in mind, the most important thing in life is your identity in Christ.  This is what I focus on, in all my personal coaching - and even small business coaching!
According to the USA Today Collegiate article, the average per-session charge for coaching is $214, and the average, client-cited ROI (Return On Investment) is 3.44 TIMES the dollar investment made!  
Please note:  this is NOT my fee.  Check my website for my coaching fee  - it is less than half the average per-session charge.
Even at the average rate of $214 per session, few other things in life or business will give you that kind of return (3.44X rate of investment).
{An aside - because I have to place value on what I do, I am now careful about who I allow to "pick my brain".  You know what I mean:  the age old, "Let me buy you a cup of coffee or lunch and pick your brain."  Unless the person you are requesting this of, is a very old very dear friend, please don't insult them by offering lunch in exchange for the many years and often thousands of dollars that person has invested into becoming someone worthy of having their brain picked.  Ask them what they charge as a consulting fee.  If they don't have a consulting fee, offer something quite generous in return.  Obviously, in close friendships, these rules do not apply.  But still respect the incredible value of the time and life experience of your friend.  And do not approach someone you barely know, but regard as an expert in a given field, and offer something like coffee and ask to pick their brain.  They likely will promptly tell you that THEY will buy YOU coffee in exchange for even HALF of what their consulting fees run, and then you can pick their brain all you wish.}
Life coaching is not counseling, therapy, or mentoring.  A therapist takes what is broken and tries to restore it.  A coach takes what is essentially healthy, and tries to take it from better to best.
Some people think life coaching is a "quack industry"...in my opinion, these are usually the same people who don't believe in the value of chiropractors, don't believe in home education, and don't believe in scandalous grace - not that I am implying that those three things are equal in value!  Because personal coaching is, as of this writing, an unregulated industry, there are quacks, of course there are.  You have to do your due diligence before hiring a coach.  Be aware it takes courage to become a coach, just as it takes courage to become a naturopathic doctor, a home educator, or a preacher of grace....you will be swimming upstream, many times.
The quality of the answer you receive, depends on the quality of the question you ask.  Coaching is all about powerful questioning.
My website is here
Two small samples of my coaching tools can be found here and here  (I have developed about a dozen other tools and journaling techniques that apply to personal and small business development.  Some of those will only ever be shared with paying clients, or with the people who sign up for my occasional newsletter.  
I think the best art is a life well lived, but if you'd like to see my visual art, you can find it here
A few of my actual client references here
My coaching offers are here
A couple of great coaching books:
Coaching Questions by Tony Stoltzfus
Training Programs (I personally, given my extensive 20 years of full time ministry experience, chose the least expensive accreditation school I could find.  I do not personally recommend any one program - you must do your own due diligence):

“Art and Artists” Episode 6

July 12, 2014
Art and Artists - Episode 6

My Story

I never considered myself an artist - not in all my life, up till about 3 years ago.  I was married at the young age of 20, and gave birth to honeymoon identical twin daughters 9 months later.  Instant family.
I never saw all the creativity it took to raise and nurture a family.  I only saw my mistakes.  Because of the fact that I didn't yet understand the grace of God (though I was a Christian) I never considered myself an artist...just a flawed mom and tired preacher's wife.
Knowing what I know today, I consider it part of my life's work to nurture the art and the artist inside every woman.  
Art is simply a form of the verb "to be"...

If you are alive and breathing, you are living art.  You are creating a life for yourself and those you love - either by design, or by default.
Because theologically, everyone is creative because we were all made in the image of a creative God.
Genesis 1:1  "In the beginning, God created the heavens and the earth.  And the earth was without form and void, and darkness was upon the face of the deep..."
God fills voids with Himself.  He is still filling voids today - if you come to the God of the Bible, the Jesus of Scripture, God still fills the empty space of your heart with His Spirit.
God is still at work, creating beautiful things out of the dust.  My life and yours is proof.

To be an artist...to create art...is to simply fill a void with ourselves or our gifts.
Only a fraction of us are supposed to fill empty places with our canvases or our sculptures or our movies or songs.
But we are all supposed to fill voids with whatever our gift is - be that raising a family, cooking a meal, running a business, building, preaching, or plumbing.  All are creative acts, done by creative people.
My website:
A great book on the theology of grace:
The book One Way Love by Tullian Tchividjian (the grandson of Billy Graham)
Books and artists who have influenced and impacted me:
The book The Art of Life by the late Edith Schaeffer
The book Walking on Water by the late Madeline L'Engle*
Anything and everything by the very much alive and well abstract artist Makoto Fujimura
Harvest Church's website:  www.harvestchurchknoxville.com
Our address:
Harvest Church
6720 Kern Rd.
Knoxville, TN  37921
*This book (by Madeline L'Engle) is by far my favorite...

Freedom On The 4th

July 4, 2014

Welcome to art and life well designed - I am Sheila Atchley, preacher’s wife, artist, life coach, mom to four amazing adults and grand mommy to three perfect littles.  And it is a gorgeous day here in east Tennessee, I am so happy my Preacher is back from Haiti - after a week long trip there, along with his son in law Jonathan Howe and our good friend Katherine Kear.  This was the Preacher’s first trip to Haiti as the president of Bethanie Missions - he has been many times before, but this trip was special, because of the new responsibility he bears.  He and the team went in to document the extent of Bethanie Missions  (a new website is currently under construction) in Haiti through photography and videography. 

The subject, this July 4th, that is heavy on my heart is the subject of freedom.

The cry of the human heart is a cry for freedom.  Grace is a truth we need to be continually renewed in - almost all our issues stem from operating in the wrong covenant.  Know which covenant is in force, right now.  Colossians 1 says  “the Gospel is bearing fruit and growing among you, since the day you heard and understood God’s grace in all its truth.”  Grace is something you have to understand - not just hear about, not merely mentally assent to.  

Our minds need refreshed and renewed in grace continually.  God’s life becomes exceedingly dynamic in us, when grace is properly understood, and more than that, when it is lived out, even in secret.

The law, for the Christian, is outdated information.  When you operate on outdated information, you end up mis-informed, and therefore you are both misled and what is even worse - you mislead.

Everyone born into this world is born under the law.  The law is exacting in its demands - it is unrelenting in its perfection.  It is both perfect, and it demands perfection.  The law is clearly in charge as a schoolmaster to point us to Christ.  But once we come to Christ, we are dead to the law.  We died with Christ, and we have been raised up together with him.  In no way are we blessed by the keeping of the law, we are blessed because of the finished work of Christ.  

All around the world, people think they understand grace, but their pastors and leaders insinuate that we are still under the law, a tiny bit…because after all, "we are blessed when we keep the law, when we do good."  This neutralizes the entire gospel.  The perfect law of liberty declares that God has imputed His righteousness to us.  The “have to’s” become the “want to’s”.  

The gospel is so far from behavior modification.  Behavior modification is manipulation and legalism.  Grace frees us to operate from a basis of love, and let me assure you - lovers outperform workers, every time.  Lovers outwork the workers, every time.  

You, dear one, are in what is called a NEW COVENANT.  If you have come to Christ, you are out from under the law - even the law written on stone.  The law was created to drive you to Christ.  Religion drives you back to the law, and you must resist that with all that is in you.  You must live, move and have your being in total freedom.  

You will be amazed at your fruitfulness and productivity in grace!  You do not need the law to be productive in your Christian walk.  

Romans 5 talks about the fact that the whole human race is either under the demands of the law, or they are under the freedom of grace.  No exceptions.  Your righteousness is either given to you as a gift, or you do not possess any righteousness at all.

When Adam disobeyed God, that sin was imputed to the entire human race.  By contrast, in second Adam, His righteousness is imputed to those who believe and receive.  Good works will never, never, never bring you into relationship with God.  At the same time, under grace, good works will flow and abound in your life.

Listen to Romans 5:12 and forward:

Therefore, just as sin entered the world through one man, and death through sin, and in this way death came to all people, because all sinned—

13To be sure, sin was in the world before the law was given, but sin is not charged against anyone’s account where there is no law. 14Nevertheless, death reigned from the time of Adam to the time of Moses, even over those who did not sin by breaking a command, as did Adam, who is a pattern of the one to come.

15But the gift is not like the trespass. For if the many died by the trespass of the one man, how much more did God’s grace and the gift that came by the grace of the one man, Jesus Christ, overflow to the many! 16Nor can the gift of God be compared with the result of one man’s sin: The judgment followed one sin and brought condemnation, but the gift followed many trespasses and brought justification. 17For if, by the trespass of the one man, death reigned through that one man, how much more will those who receive God’s abundant provision of grace and of the gift of righteousness reign in life through the one man, Jesus Christ!

18Consequently, just as one trespass resulted in condemnation for all people, so also one righteous act resulted in justification and life for all people. 19For just as through the disobedience of the one man the many were made sinners, so also through the obedience of the one man the many will be made righteous.

20The law was brought in so that the trespass might increase. But where sin increased, grace increased all the more, 21so that, just as sin reigned in death, so also grace might reign through righteousness to bring eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.

Dear one, this freedom from sin and its consequences applies to you.  This freedom applies to your children, when they hear this message of the scandalous grace of God, and believe it.  So you’d do well to share the truth of it with them.  God is no longer counting our sins against us.  Because of the sacrifice of Christ, the demands of the law have been fully satisfied, and we are free.

Thank you so much for listening to this podcast.  I just want to remind you that if you’d like more information as to my background and who I am, you are invited to visit me at my website, www.sheilaatchleydesigns.com, where there is a lot more of this kind of stuff available.  You can also see my art, and get an idea of my coaching philosophy.  Also, if you are ever in the Knoxville, TN area on any given Sunday morning at 10:30, I invite you to drop in and visit us at Harvest Church, 6720 Kern Rd. Knoxville, or feel free to tune in via our webcast at harvestchurchknoxville.com